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1) It’s Easier to Think Outside the Box if You Leave the Box Every Once in a While

It’s a big world out there and, for better or worse, there are many different ways of approaching life’s problems.

On our year anniversary of traveling, I wrote the following line:

“We fail to question all the little assumptions we make every day about the way we live because when everything works as well as it does in our modern society (and so cheaply), we have no reason to think differently.”

But I am sure we can all agree that our modern world still leaves a lot to be desired.

(After eight months back home, still living humbly at my parents house, with just a glimpse into the lives of the disenfranchised, this lesson is still unfolding.)

Doing things a certain way just because it’s the way you always have isn’t going to get it done. A view from the outside—looking in or further out—provides a fresh perspective, which could lead to some innovative solutions.

2) It Can Always Get Worse

So yes, you just spent last night sleeping in a van and you’re feeling pretty lousy. But because of your overtired stupor, you put unleaded gas in your diesel-running van and it won’t run anymore. And now you’re sitting in a McDonald’s parking lot contemplating your options with the persistent taste of gasoline in your mouth because you foolishly thought you could siphon the gas out of the tank.

It can always get worse and often does. When it does, please take solace in lessons three and four.

But don’t expect things to get worse. Don’t dwell on the idea that bad things happen to good people. I almost let my fear of being mugged ruin the last four months of our trip. I felt like things were too good and we were too lucky. It was a hard feeling to shake. But we never got mugged.

tragedy + time = comedy

This isn’t the first time in my life I’ve gotten stuck in the mud up to my knees. Riding the trails in Cambodia.

When we went for an off-road bike tour of the Ankgor Wat temple complex in Cambodia the following happened: My bike tire needed to be replaced. My bike chain broke and needed to be replaced. Nellu fell into a flooded rice paddy, dunking his camera. (We got it replaced in Japan.) I slipped into a flooded rice paddy. I got stuck up to my knees in mud and almost lost my shoe. My tire popped and we replaced the tube. And we got stuck in a major downpour. Which leads me to lesson number three…

3) Tragedy + Time = Comedy

That’s a line from a famous Tig Notaro comedy set.  Days after she was diagnosed with breast cancer, Tig turned that bad news into a refreshingly honest and funny routine: “It’s weird because with humor, the equation is tragedy plus time equals comedy. I am… just at tragedy.”

(Um, you might have to hear it for yourself. Tig Notaro: Live can be purchased on iTunes.)

But it’s true. Not to say that we suffered anything close to tragedy on the road. We had mishaps and minor setbacks. And after getting a little distance from it, it was clear that we had some entertaining material on our hands.

I would notice spikes in the number of hits on our blog when I wrote about some of our more trying times on the road.

“Our friends like to see us suffer,” I joked with Nellu.

Apparently what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger and will also make your friends laugh.

4) It Gets Better

The good news is that after you’ve had a rough go at it for a while, your bar for better is a lot lower. Getting to blow out my hair was a luxury I looked forward to on the road. I still makes me feel better.

5) Wherever You Go, There You Are

This is the title of a Jon Kabat-Zinn book. It’s particularly relevant to travel (and I guess life too.)

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On the rocks above Little Petra in Jordan. Photo by Nellu.

Seriously, you are where you are. Stop trying to get ahead of yourself. Unless you’re a character from a J.J. Abrams production, with a clone or something, you can’t.

There’s something about traveling that makes you take things one step at a time. You can get more from the world around you and yourself by just paying attention to where you are.

Moreover, life has a pace of its own. (Recognizing that there’s no way to control that pace—I’m still working on that one.)

6) There’s Always a Jackass

You know the expression “expect the unexpected?” Well this is a similar strategy. Expect the jackass. Sometimes it’s the guy that insists on following you, harassing you to buy something. Sometimes it’s an actually donkey that wakes you up, braying at 3am.

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Jackasses are everywhere. Photo by Nellu.

There’s always a jackass. Expect it. That way when the jackass appears, you can quickly identify him/her as such and move on.

Sidebar: When I first sketched out this list when we got home, I led with “there’s always a jackass.” Apparently jackasses lose relevance over time.

7) People in Groups Are Assholes

Think about the last time you were with a group of people in public. Let’s say three or more people. Chances are, you collectively acted like an asshole. You probably laughed a little too loud at each other’s jokes. Maybe you walked too slowly or took up the whole sidewalk. You probably didn’t notice, but someone else likely did.

Now that you aware of your assholery, don’t let it happen again. And if you often find yourself as the odd man out of the group, invest in a quality pair of earbuds.

8) Be Open To Random Acts of Small Talk

I know this can be particular painful to some people. I used to be you. I am very approachable. Apparently my face says, “Talk to me!” even though my mind used to scream, “Why are you talking to me!?”

Now I love it. Sure, this is just one of the ways that I may be turning into my mother. But I think there’s a lot to be said about the rewards of a casual conversation. It might just be a quick tip:  “Oh you may not want to buy that apple, I saw someone lick it.” It might be something more…

~ Molly

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When we were planning this trip people would often ask where I wanted to go most in the world. I would just tell them, “I want to go everywhere.” Incidentally, this response was not what some were looking for because more than once the asker got mad at me and demanded more details. It was almost as if I insulted them with my open agenda. But that’s the truth. I never really had one place in mind when we set out on this trip. There’s no bucket list. I just wanted to get out and see the place.

But it turns out, I do have specifics. I just forgot. It seems that over the years I’ve been mentally filing away places I want to visit based on your standard stimulants – movies, pictures, articles. Over time all this inspiration got buried. But it’s still there. I found one piece when I went looking for the movie Lost in Translation. It’s based in Tokyo and we get the biggest kick out of seeing moves shot in places we’ve been. We were in Kyoto when I watched the trailer and ultimately downloaded the movie through iTunes.

There’s a scene where Scarlett Johansson‘s character visits some of the temples in Kyoto and one in particular where she walks across a path of circular rocks through a pond. You can see it in the trailer at 1:37 below.

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These stones live at Heian Temple in the gardens behind the main shrine. Only when I rewatched the trailer did I remember that when I first saw that scene years ago I thought to myself, “I want to go there,” even though we had just gone to the temple and walked across the stepping stones the day before. Yes, we did go specifically to Heian to find the stones because of my obsession with all things water and I did shoot video of it to share with you. But still, why hadn’t I put the two together?

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I think that I should start a bucket list so 1) I can actually remember the places I want to go and 2) I can have things to cross off once and awhile to make me feel more productive.

~ Molly

Editor’s Note: After I published this blog we discovered that not only is someone working on the perfect bucket list but they used two of Nellu’s photos from flickr in building that list. Check out the perfect bucket list by clicking the picture below.

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